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Should is a word to let go of

April 24, 2015 by Jennifer Kogan

Let go of those 'shoulds'

Should is a word to let go of                                  Image by Christina Mazzalupa

Should is a word to let go of

It’s a thread winding between expectation and identity

it adds to the fear of being found out as it watches us spin in our own heads

dividing us from heart and spirit

How did we learn to layer upon layer, the heft of guilt, responsibility and should?

Years of  self-talk that once again we have it all wrong and that if only we could

fit our square pegs into that perfect space we would be safe and accepted and whole

When actually……if we shine a light onto our should and challenge it by asking ‘why?’

We are sure to feel freer to feel the whole lot of messiness and joy coming next.

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