expectations Archives - Jennifer Kogan, MSW, RSW, LICSW https://jenniferkogan.com/tag/expectations/ Compassion Focused Counseling and Consultation in Washington, DC and Ontario, Canada Sun, 07 May 2017 02:01:23 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Should is a word to let go of https://jenniferkogan.com/should-is-a-word-to-let-go-of/ Fri, 24 Apr 2015 00:51:38 +0000 https://jenniferkogan.com/?p=2814 Should is a word to let go of It’s a thread winding between expectation and identity it adds to the fear of being found out as it watches us spin in our own heads dividing us from heart and spirit How did we learn to layer upon layer, the heft of guilt, responsibility and should? Years of  self-talk […]

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Should is a word to let go of

It’s a thread winding between expectation and identity

it adds to the fear of being found out as it watches us spin in our own heads

dividing us from heart and spirit

How did we learn to layer upon layer, the heft of guilt, responsibility and should?

Years of  self-talk that once again we have it all wrong and that if only we could

fit our square pegs into that perfect space we would be safe and accepted and whole

When actually……if we shine a light onto our should and challenge it by asking ‘why?’

We are sure to feel freer to feel the whole lot of messiness and joy coming next.

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]]> Motherhood, Connecting and Speaking Up https://jenniferkogan.com/motherhood-connecting-and-speaking-up/ Wed, 02 Nov 2011 01:26:36 +0000 https://jenniferkogan.com/?p=2470 Mothers have a hard time taking care of themselves because they are so busy taking care of everyone else. People talk about the beauty of motherhood, but not about how hard it can be. This is because we live with the myth that motherhood is all sunshine and roses. Despite what we see in the media, being a mom is not always wonderful. It can be hard and messy and unpredictable. The way to cope with the reality of motherhood is to acknowledge our true feelings and to put our own needs into the equation. Read more of an interview I did with Valerie Young of Your Woman in Washington.

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Mothers have a hard time taking care of themselves because they are so busy taking care of everyone else. People talk about the beauty of motherhood, but not about how hard it can be. This is because we live with the myth that motherhood is all sunshine and roses. Despite what we see in the media, being a mom is not always wonderful. It can be hard and messy and unpredictable. The way to cope with the reality of motherhood is to acknowledge our true feelings and to put our own needs into the equation. Read more of an interview I did with Valerie Young of Your Woman in Washington. 

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