Mothers have a hard time taking care of themselves because they are so busy taking care of everyone else. People talk about the beauty of motherhood, but not about how hard it can be. This is because we live with the myth that motherhood is all sunshine and roses. Despite what we see in the media, being a mom is not always wonderful. It can be hard and messy and unpredictable. The way to cope with the reality of motherhood is to acknowledge our true feelings and to put our own needs into the equation. Read more of an interview I did with Valerie Young of Your Woman in Washington.
As a mom who meets lots of new moms, I have noticed something lately. In my conversations with new mothers who breastfeed, there is an almost universal belief that breast milk is akin to the nectar of the gods. I hear words like “lazy” and “selfish” to describe mothers who choose to bottle-feed. Not surprisingly, women who choose to bottle-feed tell me that they feel judged, guilty, and not supported. Is breast milk better for babies? Maybe. But is bottle- feeding such a sin?
Read more of an interview I did with Janice D’Arcy of the Washington Post blog, On Parenting about how to talk with your kids about violence, terrorism and the death of a terrorist.
This is an older post about self-compassion that is still very relevant. Many of still believe we need to “push through the pain” in order to succeed but the opposite has been proven to be true.